In my experience, when I have let go of should, when I can stop worrying about measuring my progress in unmeasurable things like fulfillment and pleasure, growth/change/life becomes pleasantly nonlinear. Sometimes my path becomes nothing at all like a straight line—it’s more like a series of dots, or a fingerpainted smear, or a sculpture. Sometimes I take two steps forward and one step back.
Read MoreIf communications come fast and furious in your world, and if you struggle to keep people happy via email (or other text-based communication), see what you can do to delay hitting ‘send’. It just might make things easier.
Read MoreIt was as though he had been staring at the door when a key fell through the window, and of course he himself was the prison, the door, the window, and the key.
— Rebecca Solnit, The Faraway Nearby
Many of us think of freedom as something each of us has, inherently, within ourselves. That it takes an external force to trap us, to prevent us from being free. But the thing is: we trap ourselves, all the time, just by thinking of ourselves in ways that hold us back.
Read MoreIf we view our strengths as “what strengthens us” and our weaknesses as “what makes us weaker, what drags us down,” we can start to follow the path of building our strengths, rather than following a path toward our weaknesses. With that change of path, our lives may change drastically.
Read MoreA friend of mine shared this poem with me, and it seemed so relevant to the way I think about “work,” and how my clients think about it, and what all of us want our lives to be, and how we try to make our lives what we want them to be.
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